Sunday, March 31, 2019

Should parents stop parenting?

"Globalization, free trade and liberal democracy are all terms that began sounding hollow once the developed world started feeling the pinch of an economic slowdown. The latest word to join that grouping is 'meritocracy', a portmanteau created to make people believe in some mythical, non-existent value," wrote R Singhal. The college admissions scandal in the US, wherein rich parents paid bribes to get their children into top universities, shows how the rich use their wealth give an unfair advantage to their children. Criminal activity is to be punished but is it wrong to use your wealth to increase your child's knowledge? Bribery is a crime, "But is it less moral to cheat brazenly like that than it is to donate millions to a target university, or to pay tens of thousands of dollars for preparatory private school each year, or to spend thousands of dollars on test-prep tutors, or to ferry your kids from soccer practice to orchestra lessons to bulk up their profiles as college-worthy?" asked I Bogost. A study in Britain showed that wealthy parents create a glass floor under their children by financing unpaid internships and using their networks to get them a better start in life. Difference in parenting depends on how unequal a society is. Parents in the US and UK, with high inequality, spend much more time on their children than parents in Denmark and Sweden, wrote J Anderson. How equal a system is does not depend on ordinary people, but on politicians. If your child is denied admission into a good school because you live a few yards outside the catchment area, then it is an example of "access to 'good' education is largely determined by womb lottery, or where you are born". Parents rent houses in catchment areas of good schools because fees of private schools have become too expensive to afford. The difference in class has an influence right from the birth of a baby in how parents talk to their children. "Among professional families, the average number of words children heard in an hour was twenty-one hundred and fifty; among working class families, it was twelve-hundred and fifty; among welfare families, it was six hundred and twenty," a study showed. Even more basic, children from poorer families have smaller brains than their wealthier peers. So, should richer parents stop feeding or talking to their children? In the coming general election in India every political party has chosen children of politicians as candidates, which keeps power within families. The reason is that people prefer to vote for criminals, a study by political scientist Milan Vaishnav found. Children don't ask to be born. Parenting is a moral obligation.

1 comment:

Sakti Deb said...

Thanks for your appreciation. It is a great feeling.