Tuesday, July 24, 2007

The woman is some 26 years of age. She is married about five years and has a daughter of four years of age. She fell in love and married this fellow against the wishes of both families. He is an only child and used to live in his parents' house but they have probably kicked him out because he is now living with the woman's family. In India living with your wife's family is probably the most dishonourable thing a man can do. Being a ' ghar jawain ' robs you of all respect and dignity. Anyway the fellow is a layabout and reluctant to take on hard work. He does a little tailoring work and spends the m0ney on drinks. The w0man does nothing. Little wonder there is no money to send the daughter to school. Then the woman gets pregnant again. She probably went to the government hospital and was advised an ultrasound. There is little money for food for her pregnancy so an ultrasound is out of the question. When she is near term her brother pays for an ultrasound and they find that the baby has microcephaly or an abnormally small head and brain. Had this been detected earlier she could have been offered an abortion and would not have had to carry the baby for the entire nine months with all the attendant risks. Anyhow a lady doctor helps her deliver a baby boy without charge. The baby dies at birth. The mother is distraught especially because the baby was a boy. This woman raised a lot of questions in my mind. Why does this woman stay on with a loser? Why does she not get a job? With two people working they could give good food, all vaccines and an education to the daughter. Why does she want a son? With poor nutrition and no money for medical care she is unlikely to see old age so why the need for a son? Is the urge to have a son only an Indian disease and if so what is the treatment? I find it inexpicable.

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